Tender BDSM

A hilarious and very true comic about BDSM

A lot of people, espicially those newer to BDSM seem to think it's all about pain and humiliation in some shape or form. That is just not the case. A bit misconception, specifically is with the pet play community.

People who are new to pet play or those who have never really looked into pet play seem to think it revolves (inherently) around beastiality and/or people dress up as pets solely for humiliation. This is false. A large study done showed majority of pet players (at least for this specific group of participants) showed most people who engage in pet play for it as a form of escapism. Children come up with creative games all the time, where they pretend they are fighting dragons or are faeries playing in the fields. Some pretend they are animals. Well, adults pretend to be animals too and this is pet play.

The wonderful thing about the BDSM community is that the bdsm activities and behaviors is like a giant buffet table. Indulge in what you want, and leave the rest behind.

Some pet players will pretend to be a sheep and their handler a shepherd. Some BDSM participants will have a caregiver-submissive dynamic to fill the void in their heart of having someone care for them or take care of someone. Some dynamics involve "household slaves" where the said slave will be in charge of just keeping the house clean, running errands, doing the laundry, and engage in other kinds of "household chores." Keep in mind that anything in the Master/slave dynamic has been consented to and the slave (or Master) had the right to retract consent at any time and walk away from the relationship for any reason.

The misconception that BDSM is only "hard core painful sex" or "only meant to degrade people" is a dangerous misconception that the mass media loves to push forward. BDSM can be tender and soft, and those players who wish to engage in this kind of tender play deserve recognition.